You tend to be extra careful when you go out with a girl for the first time. As they say, first impression is the last impression. You just don’t need to put on your best clothes, you have to be at your best behaviour as well. If you fail to make a good impression and give a good account of yourself in the first date, just know that there is not going to be another date. Being careful does not mean being conscious about everything. Be yourself. If you try to put up a pretence, she will figure out soon. Cast a spell on your date with your charm so that she would want more of you and plan another date with you. Wheedling the girl for a second date is tougher than making her say ‘yes’ for the first one. Make her feel that you are someone she can trust and hold on to for some time before she decided whether she wants to get into a serious relationship with you or not.
Here are the 16 First Date Tips for you to charm your date
- Be chivalrous
The one quality that a girl expects to
find in a guy is chivalry. She would not like you if you do not show any
courtesy towards her. You must pull the chair for her, offer her the
first morsel of food and give her a change to speak before you talk.
Gift her a bouquet of flowers when you ask her out on a date. All these
gestures go a long way in ensuring her that you are someone who respects
women and know how to be courteous towards them.
- There should be a plan
After she agrees to come on a date with
you, don’t waste any time and start planning everything immediately. Do
not leave any stone in turned to make it a memorable date for her. Of
course, you have to keep a check on your budget and not overspend but
that does not mean you will cut costs unnecessarily. Do not leave
anything for the last moment and prepare everything on time.
- Pick a good place
The location where you intend to take
her out on a date is very important. The place could be a restaurant,
club or even an outdoor location. Just make sure she likes it. The place
should be such that it should give you both a lot of privacy and ample
scope to enjoy each other’s company. You could go for a desolate
location but make sure the place does not make her feel uncomfortable.
- Be punctual
If you have promised to pick her up,
then reach her place on time. If she prefers to come on her own, you
must arrive at the location before she does. Waiting your girl on the
first date is the biggest blunder you can make. She will appreciate you
for your punctuality.
- Pick her up
As mentioned earlier, she could either
prefer coming with you or drop by her own. Having said that, you should
insist on picking her up from her place. If she says a yes, then you
must know that she trusts you. Do not push her if she says no. Respect
her choice and do not get disheartened.
- Dress up well
There is no specific dress code for a
date. Wear something that you are comfortable in and do not wear
anything just to impress. Just make sure that what you wear is something
that she would like to see you in. Your style should be understated and
classy. Wear something that fits you well and dress appropriately.
- Wear a perfume
We do get attracted by the smell of a
person. So, wear a perfume the fragrance of which would drive her crazy.
Body odour is a big turn off for women and you must ensure that you
smell good. The better you smell, the more she will be attracted towards
you. .
- Be modest
Talk about your achievements but brag.
She would not like you bragging about yourself without giving her a
chance to speak. Talk to her and congratulate her on her achievements.
There should not be an iota of ego in the way in which you speak.
- Be confident
Whether you keep quiet or talk
incessantly, your actions should depict a confident persona. Your body
language should be that of a confident person. Speak with a firm voice
and wear a confident smile. Even if you are a bit under confident, do
not let it show.
- Do not argue
While you both discuss a few things, a
difference of opinion might crop up between the two of you. You do not
have to agree with her on everything but do not break into an argument.
If you have a point which contradicts her thought, then bring it across
in a polite manner.
- Be a good listener
What’s the point of bringing her out on a
date if you speak incessantly without giving her a chance to speak her
mind? You have to be a good listener and listen to all that she says.
Then, you could speak to which would result in a healthy conversation.
- Control your excitement
The fact that she has agreed to come out
on a date with you, should not put wrong ideas in your head. The kiss
need not happen on the first date. The intimacy part could happen later.
Do not push your luck beyond a point or else you will end up ruining
your date.
- Table manners
You should come across as someone who
knows table manners. Serve the food on her plate before you help
yourself, chew your food properly and eat like a gentleman. Even if you
are dying with hunger, go easy on the food.
- Make her feel comfortable
Make sure that she is comfortable in
your presence. Do not do anything that could intimidate her. Talk to her
like a friend and do not put any kind of pressure on her. Do not let
her feel that you are expecting anything out of the date. Let her enjoy
the outing.
- Compliment her
Compliment her on her looks or the way
she has been dressed up. She must have put some effort to look special
on the date. Appreciate her effort and let her know that you noticed her
appearance.
- Drop her home
Insist on dropping her at her place.
Apart from showing your chivalrous side, it would also help you buy some
more time with her. And yes, after you drop her ask her whether she
would like to join you on another date.
Follow these simple tips and you are
bound to win her heart on the first date itself. If she agrees to go on
another date, then you must know that you played your cards well and
managed to have a successful first date.